from such great heights

life in transit

Posted in life by chapwoman on August 27, 2008

the word “communication” doesn’t settle well with me.

maybe it’s that i “communicate” with lots of people, but feel so alone during these summer months. i’m practically a castaway here in anaheim, where lots of once-familiar people and places have made their homes in my past.

maybe it’s that i “communicate” with most people via text, via facebook. facebook’s great and all, but doesn’t it just suck the life out of friends with funny giggles, unique facial expressions, and resonant voices? no matter how often I chat with friends online, i always end up watching their life play out in pictures from afar, from “tagged” photos, from profile pics. texting and facebook are intended to make “communication” more efficient, but i can’t help feeling like they’re doing me a disservice, trading real laughs over phone lines with a colon & parenthesis on a screen.

or maybe it’s that i’ve always been horribly awkward with “communication” in the initial stage of getting to know someone. what do we talk about? when do we establish good enough inside jokes? when do we label ourselves as “friends” or “a couple” or even “best friends?” i say, let’s just cut the crap and talk about something real, talk about what makes us tick, what makes us incredibly happy, what makes us. because how often do we actually have those kinds of conversations?

to be honest, all the truly valuable relationships in my life don’t involve that word. they involve something much deeper, called “growth.” communication doesn’t need growth to function properly; all it needs is a medium: an instant message, an iphone, an email. but growth, growth requires a whole array of ingredients like honesty, vulnerability, face-to-face & eye-to-eye contact.

so to all my friends who I have a real relationship with, who I’ve opened up to on long car rides and who have opened up to me over long-distance phone signals, i am so blessed to have you in my life.

and to those friends I lack a true bond with, let’s make plans.

: )


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  1. Anna Clauson said, on August 27, 2008 at 10:30 pm

    what you said about communication through technological means really resonates with me. there is something about a voice or an eye color or the pursing of lips that a facebook message can never capture.

    you’re a wise woman, my dear…..i always knew i liked you.

  2. dinesh1201 said, on October 20, 2008 at 12:39 am

    Communication is the basis for everything..
    Nice blog.

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